DID I FIGHT FOR MY SON?
Yesterday my two sons and I went swimming.
The elder son, Justin, is four and a half years old. The younger one, Joshua, will turn three in three months time. Both of them don’t know how to swim but they can float around with their arm bands. Justin is quite confident and he can go around by himself without me stay close to him but he doesn’t know how to breath under water. Yesterday while I was taking Joshua swimming, Justin was playing at the stair of the swimming pool. We were about three meters away from Justin. Suddenly, there was one boy, about 5 years old walking passed by and he just pushed Justin fall into swimming pool. Thanks God that Justin was familiar with water. The water didn’t go into his nose and mouth but he was really shocked, scared and upset. He cried for sometime and kept saying ‘I don’t want that naughty boy push me’.
At that moment I was very angry with that boy. I don’t know who he is. I wanted to scold him and asked him to apologize to my son but I didn’t. At that moment, I think Justin need me to be with him and talk to him more than scolding that boy. I explained to him that in this world some people are good, some are not so. He has to learn to be cautious and careful. I told him that I was very proud of him that his skill in water improved. Water didn’t go into his mouth and nose at all. I was very sorry that I was not with him. And I asked him to forgive that boy even though he didn’t apologize to him. Surprised me that he said ‘YES’.
Some how I still think that I should have at least told that boy what he did is not right. Feel like I didn’t fight for my son.
What would you do if you were me?
Aey Hatchhanong
4 comments:
Hey Aey,
You didnt fight for your son but you did something better, read on....
Just wanna say that you did right cos i would have done the same by attending to Justin first. At that moment he needed your comfort and assuurance. You went further to explain the situation to him like you did instead of scolding the boy ( Most moms would have reprimanded him )He therefore at the tender age of 4 1/2 knows how to forgive.( which is better than a whole bunch of us adults!!!!)You have done well. You reap what you sow!!
What you did had taught him forgiveness instead of anger. Yes,as parents, we should and will always protect our children but I think its also important to teach and raise them according to Gods way. We set examples by our attitudes & actions ie we must try to live a more Christlike life.We must teach the way we know best and pray and trust God that they will turn out good.Hey God has not only blessed us with our children but He has also given us the responsibility to raise them well.
As for the boy,if i were you and if see him again, i would find out who his parents are and inform them of the incident.Maybe he didnt understand his actions but at 5 years he must be taught that it was downright dangerous. Do this for the good of the child. Whereas, we on our part have done the right and decent thing !! What do you think??
Thank you so much Yummy for your assurance. Sometime, like this situation, I felt like I was standing on the border line. Step to the left, I will do the right thing. Step to the right, I will make a mistake.
For that boy, I can't really recognise his face. I didn't wear spectacle when go swimming. If happen that I meet him again, I will definitely tell his parent.
Aey
Hello Aey,
This is something those who arent mother cant fully understand. Many a times, I become very protective of my children even when the situation isnt grave at all. That's a mother's love.
I like the way you handled it Aey. You've guided Justin well - to know right from wrong yet being gracious to others. ;]
On the contrary, Aey, I think you fought well for Justin. To have expressed your anger (yes, I fully understand the anger as a parent) would mean you'd have given in to the ways of the world. You have indeed fought a great battle within yourself and for your children by demonstrating the love of God in real life situations, where you can choose to forgive instead of avenge.
I respect your actions, and I learn from it. I too hope that I will have the strength to live my life as a role model for my son. Well done! :-)
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