DOES MOM REALLY KNOW BEST?
Vanessa & RachaelRead this article in a woman's mag and it made me wonder. Remember the advise our parents used to give us? It made almost perfect sense then but does it still apply in todays world? To be frank, I dont even agree with some of the advise, not even back then. Haha, ya, that's me all right.
I love and miss my parents so much, esp my Mom whom I never appreciated till I was at least 28. That'll be a story for another day. Hopefully, soon. =] Here were some of the advise i picked out from the magazine to which i added some of my own thoughts.
Mom : Dont date too many guys.
Me : I used to ignore that advise but SHE WAS RIGHT!!
Mom : Mind your reputation
Me : You do need to watch your reputation. However, as long as it's not illegal, immoral or hurt anyone, be confident of who you are.
Mom : Dont talk back.
Me : Be respectful, but please care enough to be able to give constructive comments and criticism. Imagine this scenario at the office. Boss : Any suggestions/comments? You : Duh...
Mom : Money isnt everything.
Me : True. You dont need the multi millionaire, that sports car or penthouse in Mont Kiara, but daughters, be willing to live by the means of the spouse you choose. The number one cause of quarrels in marriages has to do with the lack of money. I would instead stress the importance of the life style you choose and looking for a spouse who is responsible, hardworking and er, must have prospects lah. Try to stay away from dumb dumbs. (He He) 
Mom: Find someone nice who can take care of you
Me : I've already emphasised the reality of money. Now here's the gem - a man who really loves you is priceless.
Mom : Eat properly, rest well and sleep enough
Me : Do it, eyebag removal very expensive.
Mom: Excercise so your butt wont grow to the size of a tent
Me : If it does, you wont find nice clothes - MNG and ZARA's biggest sizes are 12
Mom : Study Hard
Me : Dont wind up being the class geek. ( I must stress this one). Be an all rounder, socialise, be cool. Hey BUT get that degree.
Mom : Always respect your elders.
Me : Please do. Not just in words but deeds too.
Mom : Have children to continue the family legacy
Me : Only have children if you & your husband know you are ready and willing to give them your best effort.
Mom : Always look good (actually MY mom never told me this, it was always - SPEND LESS!)
Me : Yes, it is important to look good, even aft you are married. Take care of your appearance and countenance. Who wants to come home to a grouch who dresses like a bag lady.
Mom : Way to keep a marriage? Hey, the way to a man's heart is thru his stomach.
Me : A non-negotiable I pray you will keep is to only marry a man who has an intimate relationship with Jesus, just like you will.
Anything to add? Go post it in the comments.
Cheers!!
Anna
7 comments:
Yes, i particularly agree with your point that woman should look or rather maintained themselves even after their child bearing years.
Isnt it this are the time that tell so much of a woman. What's there to maintain b4 you have children?..
Isnt it true when youth is on your side, you have everything slim and nice. No 'love handles', no cellulites, no open pores, blah, blah list goes on.
I've heard some very lame excuses that to maintain oneselfs, its frivolous! gosh can you believe that!
No,no i am not talking about one should transform ourselves to be like Ms Universe but just to maintain ourselves as we were before all the 'unhealthy looks' sets in.
You dont need to adorn yourself with expansive stuff but some little effort to keep you healthy looking and pleasantly pretty.
"Honey, can you balloon up your accounts so that i can balloon up my body"! A majority of women would like that;expecting their poor husband to continue bringing more money back as years goes by and what effort would they put in..
Ladies would you like it when your husband stop bringing in the money for the family? The same your husband would want of us, to not stop maintaining ourselves. Nuh, many of them wouldnt tell you that. Too dangerous, you know women, they will start boo hoo hoo, you dont love me anymore, you inconsiderate man ive got your kids to look after, the house to clean, the dinner to prepare oh yea and the sexual needs to satisfy... gee
For those married ladies out there who think that to maintain ourselves is frivolous ... you are wrong...jst lame excuse.. thats to me....
Didnt god created all things beautiful, he created us just like him (unless your impression of god is one who is a fat, shabbily dressed and a scrumpy man!)
Hey let me tell you god has good taste.Jst look around you, look at mother nature. The beautiful sunset, the ocean, the living creatures, the flowers and everything else .... arent they beautiful!!!!
We have a choice, m speaking out of everything being well and fine unless you are one who have some genetics disorder or health related matters, so all married ladies out there lets do our gender proud and do try to look good even after married yea!
Certain things in life we are
not able to stop it from coming like the greys in our hair and the lines/wrinkles on our face. Yes i must admit but isnt it nice to know that when the time come when we meet our father in heaven, we would stand proud and says 'Yes Lord, with all this greys on my head it just to show that i am wiser by the years and with all this lines and wrinkles, they are lines of sorrows, sadness, laughter and happiness and i wouldnt want to erase it for anything in this world.. yes i've lived my life well...
Hey Anonymous,
Agree, agree especially with you cas you sure look great! Looking forward to seeing you on the 20th. Try a nick name dear. ~wink~
Hey, what’s wrong with class geeks? As I seem to recall, you married one!
Dear you are not a geek. At least you are still interested in scuba diving and er, er, er, Hehe
I totally agree with the view that we should always respect our elders. I am sad to say that I find many "modern" parents find teaching their kids to greet their elders unimportant.How else could we show our respect if we cant even do that.?
Does anyone out there remember how we were taught by our parents to always greet their friends or for that matter any elderly person we meet. Mom used to say to me "hey no need to call 'aunty' and 'uncle' ah" and after being reminded several time, I found that it came naturally and it always left a smile on their faces! My college mates from UK (when they came to visit during the summer hols)found it rather amusing and wondered why we go around calling our elders "Uncles" and "Aunties" regardless of whether we were related or not but they left with a very good impression of our culture and the way we were brought up. As the saying goes "When in Rome,do as the Romans do" they ended up calling my parents Uncle and Aunty and thoroughly enjoyed it as they found that it was respectful and warm.
Nowadays, if I am lucky , I may just get a nod, other times they just see right through me! Sigh :(
But I must also add that, to those who know who you are, you are doing good, its always a joy and pleasure to see you whenever and wherever for you never fail to show me your respect and good manners! :)
Nice nick Yummy,
Agree with you all the way. That's why your children are blessed. Cas you have taught them well. They are both such a joy to be with.
Thank you Auntie Anna, you are so kind. You are really blessed too for our Rach is such a delightful and endearing young lady!
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